Build A Successful Student Network While In School – Making friends is one quality you cannot take away from a student even the quietest of them. No matter how reserved you are as a student, you will definitely have one close friend you can confide in or someone you spend some time with.
The kind of friends you make in school has a lot to do in influencing your performance academically and also your social life in school. Making friends is fine but it is good you know and understand the kind of people you keep as friends.
You are a fresher in school and you don’t know how to go about making friends or building a successful friendship network, then you are reading the right article as this article will help you settle down in the school environment and make friends easily and not just making friends but making friends that will help you academically.
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To excel as a student, you have to make friends or keep friends that will help you grow both academically and socially too. I am sure you are familiar with this saying that “bad communication corrupts good manners. If you are a positive minded person and have self-discipline and the friends you keep are nothing like you; with time, you begin to change if you stick with them.
You have to make friends with that will either change you for the better or have a kind of positive influence on you. So we will be guiding you through building a successful student network in school so as to make your days in school easy, impactful and also fun-filled.
You cannot override the importance of having positive friends around you in school. They have some benefits that we will be highlighting in this article. Therefore, we have divided this article into three parts:
- Importance of building the right student network in school
- Consequences of building the wrong student network in school
- How can you build a successful student network in school
IMPORTANCE OF BUILDING THE RIGHT STUDENT NETWORK IN SCHOOL
Keeping the right friends around you helps you in a lot of ways and so as a student, it is important to make or keep the right friends at school. Friends make you feel good about yourself and lift your spirit when you are down most times. The real friends will stand by you during the thick and thin.
We will be looking at some benefits of having or keeping the right friends in school.
- It improves the quality of your life
Having the right people (friends) around you will help you become positive and also think positively. They help to relieve you of pressure and make you energetic and happy. Having people that care about you r well-being and will do what it takes to make you happy will definitely help improve your physical and mental health.
Being around them helps you to overcome depression and the challenges that come while in school.
- Friends help you set and maintain your goals
The right student network enriches your life in many ways and one way is in helping you set your goals and also work towards achieving your set goals.
Let’s look at a group of friends that study together and set a goal of being at the top of the class at the end of the semester; because you are in this group, you will have to work hard to make sure you live up to expectation. Most times, when you feel lazy or don’t have the zeal to study, seeing their motivation brings you back on track.
Being with the right crowd will act as a drive to achieving your set goal. They push you to be at your best.
- It helps to boost your self-confidence
Being around the right network of friends goes a long way in boosting your self-confidence. Rolling with them gives you so much believe in your ability and also yourself. Even if others doubt your ability and strength, your friends will never doubt you. They will always believe in you.
This trust they have in you in turn boosts your confidence in yourself and what you can do. They push you to confront any challenge or fear and cheer you to achieving your set goal.
Just like when you are on the basketball court and you see your friends on the sidelines, you just have this confidence and believe in yourself because they believe in you. It acts as a drive for you.
- They help you grow mentally
A healthy student network keeps your mind healthy and free from negative thoughts. They keep you optimistic and are ready to help you overcome the hardest task(s). They are never negative minded and will not make others feel bad or depressed.
A healthy friendship helps your mental strength and train your mind to be optimistic. They make you see things on a brighter side and always show you that you are not alone even when it seems so.
Everyone needs someone that would listen to their problems and encourage them without judging them. Most times, you just need someone that would lift your spirit and make you see the brighter side.
According to Harvard Medical school, “social connections help relieve levels of stress, which can harm the heart’s arteries, gut function, insulin regulation and immune system”.
The right network of friends will try their best to encourage you and groom your mind to be positive and do better.
- They help you settle down easily in school
Let’s take a freshman in school for instance; you are going to find it kind of difficult to settle down. When you arrive on campus, you are new to the environment and everything will look strange. Meeting friends and making friends will make your journey of settling down easier and also faster.
They keep you company, give you direction especially when they came in before you. They will show you around and also try to see that you are comfortable.
- They boost your self-esteem
Have you ever had a friend that stuck by you even when others saw you as nothing?
They made your happiness their priority. Well, that is what real friends do. A friend that is ready to stick by you and invest their time in you, will make you a better person and a better version of yourself.
They do not make jest of you or mock you for your physical appearance but make you feel special for real. This attitude will surely boost your self-value and self-worth. They do not make you feel weak or incompetent instead, they encourage you to do better and do best. This is how they boost your self-esteem.
- They help boost your academic performance
Well, this is certainly true. The kind of friends you keep in school will go a long way in school will go a long way in boost your academic performance and making you come out in flying colors.
Having a study group of friends will help improve your reading ability and skills and this will help boost your academic performance. Even when you have difficulty in studying and assimilating, they figure out better ways to study and help you academically.
- They help you develop skills
The kind of friends you keep goes a long way in determining the skills you would develop. For instance, if you have a friend that is time conscious and manages time wisely; you will develop that skill with time if you roll with that people.
You might not be conscious of the changes but it will certainly set in. You try to emulate their positive attitude because you see the result of those attitudes in them and maybe their academics.
Sometimes, they might take out time to teach you some hand skills for free and put all their effort to make sure you do your best and be the best.
- A good friend network gives you a purpose
Some people claim to love being alone but having the right friends around you will help add meaning to your life, give you a purpose and encourage you to be focused.
It is not really easy to find good friends but having a good friend is worth gold. I know you would be smiling but having someone that got your back anytime and having that assurance gives you a purpose to live and a reason to be better.
Their presence and unconditional love adds meaning to your life.
- Friends challenge you to be better
We are not saying you should be in a competition with your friends but when you are around the right crowd, you will be challenged to do better and improve. If you have negative attitude, meeting the right friends will give you a yardstick to compare yourself and challenge yourself also.
You now see a reason to be better and work on yourself more. They also challenge you to have better grades. You cannot have friends that are sound academically and you are lagging so bad in your academics. They will always want to carry you along and challenge you to step up too. They push you out of your comfort zone so as to learn new things.
- They help build your self-discipline
Rolling with the right friends will help you build your ability to control yourself, your feelings and your ability. When your friends are motivated to excel in their academics and are disciplined towards achieving that, you will definitely join the train.
There is a popular saying “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”. The kind of people you roll with will determine the kind of attitude you will possess.
- They act as support in bad times
Everybody goes through some difficult times in life. But your friends will always be there to cheer you up and encourage you. The song says “we all need someone to lean on”. This is what friends do. They make you special and give you advice on how to overcome challenges and difficulties of life.
They also support you financially when you are in trouble and give you positive energy.
CONSEQUENCES OF BUILDING THE WRONG STUDENT NETWORK IN SCHOOL
In as much as keeping the right friends has its benefits, keeping the wrong friends has its consequences too. We will be looking at some of these consequences.
- You lose focus on what you want to achieve
Making and keeping bad friends has a negative effect on the goal you set to achieve for yourself. Its either they influence you to follow them in what they do or you try to emulate their characters and then lose focus on where you are going to.
When you set a goal of studying at least four (4) times a day and the type of friends you keep are not interested in studying, with time, you see yourself losing interest in studying either because of their constant nagging or persuasion.
You see yourself losing sight of your goal and also yourself.
- You feel depressed and lonely
When you do not have the right people around you to encourage or stand by you in bad times, you tend to feel lonely and depressed. You do not feel supported or motivated to proceed when you encounter failure.
The kind of student network you keep goes a long way in improving the quality of your life like we have said earlier and this is because they are always there to support you when you face difficulties and also act as a push for you to put in your best.
- You mismanage time
If you have a friend(s) that does not keep to time or do not use time properly, you will definitely be like them. The type of friends you keep will influence your lifestyle.
Even if you try to be time conscious, the attitude of your friends especially if they are not time conscious will affect you. You will no longer have priorities or set priorities. You see yourself doing things because your friends are doing it.
- You begin to lack self-confidence
Having a negative student network can affect your self-confidence. When you are always around people that do not see the best in you, they always complain about your flaws and shortcomings; you begin to lose trust in yourself and your ability.
When they do not encourage and push you to do and be the best, you begin to doubt your ability and doubt yourself.
Most times, what we need is a little encouragement and push to strengthen us and make us believe but when it’s not forthcoming, we lose that faith in our ability and also the zeal or will to improve.
- You begin to have a low self-esteem
This comes with you losing that trust in yourself. When you begin to lack that confidence in yourself, you also begin to lose your self-worth or value. When you feel you cannot do things, you begin to see yourself as inferior and then inferiority complex sets in.
You have to always be around people that motivate and lift your spirit. Losing confidence in you will lead to having a low self-esteem.
- You do not perform well academically
The type of friends you keep will also influence your academic performance. The right student network will help you improve academically while the wrong student network will result to a poor academic performance.
When you roll with friends that are mediocre (i.e, they accept any type of result or are average), you certainly will be an average student and accept average result; but when you follow the smart ones, you will become smart and improve academically.
The right student network will encourage, motivate, support and charge you towards doing your best and bringing out your best.
- You become paranoid
Paranoia is state of being afraid. You are always scared that everyone around you wants to hurt you or will hurt you. This feeling is what keeping the wrong friends can cause.
You become depressed and scared at everything that happens around you. You become uneasy and restless and this will also affect your academic performance. You feel alone and want to act alone because you feel nobody likes you.
- You lack self-discipline
When you roll with the wrong crowd and people that do not manage time properly, you will definitely be like them and also lose your ability to control your feelings and the way you do things. You lose sight of your goal and vision.
HOW CAN YOU BUILD A SUCCESSFUL STUDENT NETWORK IN SCHOOL
We have looked at the importance of having the right student network and also the consequences of having the wrong student network. You have to choose which of this student network you want to have in school as a student. Well, I know you will choose the right student network because every student wants to improve in their physical, mental, social and academic life.
We will be putting you through how you can build the right student network or friendship in school. Whether you are new to your college or have been around but don’t know how to go about it; read this segment of this article and get to build your successful student network.
- Be friendly and free
This is an important way to attract people to you. Nobody will come around you if you are not free or jovial. Be free with people especially people you meet for the first time and also show kindness. So many people have their own way of showing friendliness; it could be by smiling at others or walking up to them and introducing yourself, that is, if you are not a shy person.
If you are invited for lunch, accept it if it’s convenient for you or try to make out another time to hang out. You are showing them that you care about getting to know them. Act as a friend and be a friend.
- Spend time with people that are kind
You have to identify people that are kind and spend time with them. Being around kind and positive people will help you know yourself and also be yourself. Look for students who talk respectfully, do not speak ill of others and are willing to help others.
For a freshman, it might not be easy but when you are friendly around people, you get to know those that are kind and understanding. Also as you are looking for kind people, also be kind as kindness attracts kindness.
- Be yourself
True friends will not want you to change for them or pretend to be what you are not. They will always accept you the way you are and encourage you. So in trying to find the right student network in school, you should be yourself. Do not change yourself in order to please others.
Be yourself, your friends will accept you and your flaws. Do not lose yourself trying to please others. You can compromise in some cases but don’t do that at your detriment.
- Look for people that have a common interest as you
When you have something in common with someone, it makes becoming friends kind of easy. The common interest becomes a connection as you two have a lot of things to share and also share a lot of things. Communicating won’t be difficult.
- Ask questions to start up conversation
Asking questions is a great way to make friends and start up a conversation. According to a study published in the journal of personality and social psychology by American Psychological Association, “asking questions is one of the key acts to increasing likability in you from others”.
Ask open-ended questions and not yes-no questions. An open-ended question tends to keep the conversation going. You ask questions that would keep them talking and ready to answer. People get bored by yes or no questions. It makes them feel like they are being interrogated.
- Attend events in a school and outside school
This is another way of meeting people and making friends. When you attend events, you get the chance to meet a lot of people. Here, you get the chance to make friends ad meet people that have a common interest as you.
You cannot always stay alone all the time and expect people to come meet you, you also have to go out and meet people and also interact with them. These college events are ways to socialize with people and explore.
So find out about your school events and go out there and make friends. It could be freshmen’s night, dinner parties, seminars, symposia etc. These events are ways you get to associate with people.
- Be ready to provide assistance to others
People are attracted to kindness and when you show love to others and also support them, they tend to become attached to you. When someone asks for your assistance and you are in a position to provide such assistance, you shouldn’t hesitate to render assistance.
This will make people confide in you and also reciprocate this kindness to you. Helping people is a great way of making friends and also keeping that friendship.
- Compliment others and be genuine about it
Everyone loves compliment and praises as long as it is genuine. So one way to start up a conversation and also make friends is to compliment others. It could be their dress, hair, cologne, shoes etc.
This will definitely lead to a conversation and might even be a long conversation.
- Join a study group
You can also decide to join a study group on campus so as to have the opportunity to meet people that will improve your academic performance. In this study groups, you share ideas, study together, explore a lot of information together. You could find these groups in class or even in your dormitory.
Having the right student network in school will help you in a lot of ways like we have mentioned in this article. Making friends can be easy but making the right friends is what you should be after because it will go a long way to help you in all aspect of your life.
So try as much as you can to be around people that bring out the best in you and make you be at your best. I hope you learnt a lot from this article and make do with the tips on how to build a successful student network and make sure you build one today. See you in the next article.